Of all the reasons that women have trouble in relationships with men, the biggest one is that women just plain don’t understand men. As a woman you are constantly getting advice on what men are thinking, what men ” really” want and how to attract a man and keep him interested. The problem is that most of this advice comes from other women like your girlfriends, your mom or your coworkers. Unfortunately, as well intentioned as these women in your life are, they probably don’t have a much better understanding of men than you do!
Don’t worry – it’s not your fault that you don’t understand men. Everywhere you turn people are sending you mixed signals about what men really want. The media tells you one thing, your friends tell you another, and the relationship column in the latest issue of your favorite women’s magazine says another thing all together.
Men are no help either since they often send off mixed signals themselves. Part of the problem is that although they won’t admit it, most men don’t really even know what they want. Just like women, men are influenced by the media and by their friends so often times they think they know what they *should* want, but deep down they really don’t know just what it is that they need.
So with all these mixed messages and crossed signals, is there a secret to understanding men? For the most part men need the same things that women do. They need compassion, understanding, love, commitment and someone who will listen to them when they need it. They need time to themselves to do the things they enjoy without being talked to or constantly interrupted. Mostly they need a partner who will be with them through good times and bad and who loves them for who they are and who is willing to forgive them and try to understand when they screw up.
The part where it gets tricky is that men express their feelings and thoughts very differently than women. Even if a man is getting everything that he needs from a relationship he may not know how to show it. Not only that, but it is easy for women to get stuck in the trap of overanalyzing every little thing in a relationship.
For instance, if a man is suddenly not talkative, a woman might spend the entire day trying to figure out what she did wrong to make him stop talking to her, when in fact the man just isn’t feeling talkative.
These basic differences with how men and women communicate are often the cause of misunderstandings and miscommunication in relationships that can eventually lead to problems. By gaining more insight into how men think and what they really want it can help to eliminate problems in your current relationship or help you to start a new relationship with a man that is built on trust, understanding and love.
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Further Reading
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Submitted Questions
I’m pretty good with giving dating advice but not so good at flirting or asking ppl out. Can I get some help
I can give pretty good advice about dating but I don’t really know how to flirt pretty well or ask a girl out properly. I was rejected the first time I asked a girl out. And it takes me quite a while to actually ask because I always ask myself “What if she says no”
what you wanna do is make sure youve been hanging out with this girl and that shes into you and all( im assuming you can tell) anyways you want to start a good conversation with her but when you go to ask her out say something along the lines of “hey you wanna go to(insert minigolf restaraunt bowling…etc) this (insert day of the week your free) with me”
Try and pick something fun but keep the activity 2 hours or less.
Random Thought of the Day
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