Perfect Is Overrated…I promise. Men don’t need a woman to be flawless to be attracted to her.
After years of listening to women in my private practice, many women seem to think that men expect nothing less than perfection. If you were to visit some popular men’s websites (such as askmen.com or maximum.com) you would certainly think that unless a woman is both highly attractive and incredibly accommodating, that men have no interest. This is not really accurate. At least not in the way you might think.
I often illustrate this to women by asking this question:
” If you had a choice between two men and everything about them was exactly the same, with the exception of one being worth millions and one being poor, who would you prefer? Would you select the wealthy one, or the one who was poor?”
Answer: If they were equal in all other aspects, most women state that they would choose the wealthy gentleman. I mean, why not if everything else is equal?
Now when men hear this some are likely to say, ” That’s right, all a woman cares about is a guy who makes a lot of money.” In fact, that conclusion would be incorrect. A man would be wrong to assume that just because a woman likes the characteristic of a man with money that she cannot love a man unless he is wealthy. In fact, most women I speak with tell me this, ” It isn’t that he has to make a certain amount, but I would like to know that he has the potential to make enough for me to feel comfortable.” In fact, most women are willing and/or expect to help out financially.
This same standard applies to men. If given the choice between a woman whom they believe is very attractive, or one who appears to take no interest in her appearance, they will choose the attractive one. This doesn’t mean that they will only consider a woman who is striking. Take a look at most married men and you will see that plenty of women who would not be considered ” perfect” have husbands who choose to marry them.
Why would this be? The answer is that the quality of being authentic is actually more potent in the arena of love than perfection. Being authentic causes a woman to act in such a manner that is enchanting.
This woman is well aware that she has issues (don’t we all) and yet, she understands the balance between improving herself and being comfortable with where she is currently in her life. She doesn’t work hard at convincing others (i.e. men) that she is perfect. Rather she is very attune to the needs of her heart, and takes full responsibility for meeting those needs. Men find such a woman adorable.
Here’s an exercise that will illustrate my point. The next time you are in a crowded area take a moment and casually look around at the men. Take at least 5 minutes and you will find that the men are all looking at the women. ALL OF THE WOMEN! They will be looking at the tall ones, short ones, skinny ones, curvy ones and on and on and on….
Don’t take my word for it. Try it for yourself.
You will discover that as a woman, you have exactly what men are looking for.
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MEN AND WOMEN I NEED YOUR ADVICE!! BOOST ME AGAIN!!!
BEFORE MY CURRENT JOB I MAY HAVE HAD A COUPLE BAD RELATIONSHIPS WHERE I BEEN CHEATED ON HOWEVER THAT DID NOT INFLUENCE ME THAT ALL MEN ARE LIKE THAT. SO I MET A GUY WHO WAS 22 AND HE IS EXTREMELY SEXY BUT HE IS A VIRGIN. HE SAYS NO HE IS NOT GAY HE WAS JUST NEVER THE TYPE OF GUY TO SCREW ANY PRETTY FACE BECAUSE HE DON’T WANT TO CATCH ANYTHING.. WE HAD SOOO MUCH IN COMMON WE WERE VIRGINS WE LOOOOVE VIDEO GAMES AND JAPANESE ANIMES AND IRONICALLY WE BOTH JUST GOT OUT OF SERIOUS RELATIONSHIPS ME OF ( 1YR N 10 MONTHS) HIM (2 MONTHS BUT IT WAS THE FIRST TIME HE WAS IN LOVE) WE BOTH REALLY CARED FOR SOMEONE AND GOT HURT BAD.. ALL IN ALL HE TELLS ME I’M A DREAM THAT BECAME HIS REALITY 
ANYWAY SO WHILE WE ARE BEING TOGETHER I HAVE SUCH STRONG WILL AND EMOTIONS THAT HE WILL BE FAITHFUL TO ME LIKE HE SAID HE WILL. ANYWAY I’M AT THIS NEW JOB AND THE WOMEN THERE TRY TO INFLUENCE ME ALL MEN CHEAT JUST BECAUSE THEY ARE UP IN AGE AND ALONE EVEN SOME MY AGE I’M ONLY 21 AND THEY TELL ME THAT WHEN ME AND MY BOYFRIEND HAVE SEX HE WILL CHEAT.. I MEAN SERIOUSLY. SOME SAY ITS A GIFT FOR BOTH OF US THAT WE FOUND EACHOTHER AND WE CAN HEAL OUR HEARTS TOGETHER AND THAT THEY ARE VERY HAPPY FOR ME TO FIND SOMEONE LIKE HIM BECAUSE ITS VERY RARE IN THIS GENERATION. THEY TRY TO CONVINCE ME HE WILL CHEAT ON ME. SO I’M LIKE ARE YOU SAYING THAT GOD IS IGNORANT SO HE CREATED ALL MEN FOR INFIDELTIY HAVE YOU DATED EVERY MAN IN THIS WORLD TO MAKE THAT JUDGEMENT AND THEY TELL ME I’M LIVING IN A FANTASY WORLD CAUSE I BELIEVE MY BOYFRIEND WON’T CHEAT ON ME. TO BE HONEST WITH YOU FROM WHAT HIS FRIENDS TELL ME.. HE TELLS EVEN THE SKIMPIEST SEXY GIRLS NO AND I’M BLOW AWAY. I NEVER MET A GUY WHO SAYS NO TO A BLW JOB OR YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN WHAT I’M REALLY TRYING TO SAY IS ITS OK TO BELIEVE MY BF WHEN HE SAY HE WILL BE FAITHFUL RYT I USUALLY HAVE FEELINGS THAT MY BF’S ARE DOING SOMETHING BUT NOT WITH THIS GUY. ITS BEEN ALMOST 11 MONTHS WE BEEN TOGETHER AND OF COURSE WE HAVE SEX WE EXPERIENCED OUR FIRST TIME TOGETHER AND NOTHING HAS CHANGED. HIS ATTITUDE HIS OUTGOING AND SWEETHEARTED SELF. SO DOES THAT MEN ALL THOSE WOMEN ARE JUST MAD AT THE WORLD BECAUSE THEY WERE CHEATED ON I BEEN CHEATED EVEN HE HAS BUT WE KEPT FAITH WE WILL FIND SOMEONE SPECIAL AND WE FOUND EACHOTHER AND WE ARE STILL GOING STRONG. I AM MADLY IN LOVE WITH HIM BUT HEARING PPL SAY THINGS LIKE THAT TO ME MAKES ME SCARED AND NERVOUS.
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The questions and answers are simple…
IF… I’m saying IF… all men cheats why get in a relationship in the first place
IF all men cheats why lie to yourself and marry someone who will ultimately hurt you
So the answer is clear… There are no absolute YES no absolute NO…
My answer is YES almost everyone around me that I knew cheats… guys 100% girls 30%…
Most of them kept convincing me to cheat as well…
Why I hear the SOS (Same Old Sh*t)… That they are not happy in their current relationship…
The relationship is in a mess… The guy have no sense of hygiene… The girl have no intention to improve blah blah blah… <- They are all lame excuses to cover up their hearts desire...
But... Simply because everyone does it Is it a norm Simply because your friends got a miserable experience she is trying to express her misery to you... Don't get her wrong she's trying to care but in the wrong way...
You wanted a caring understanding cute humourous etc boyfriend...
And well done you've got it~!
NEVER have the intention to want to find another more caring more understanding cuter more humourous etc boyfriend...
Be very clear to yourself... Nothing is worth it if it worths your tears...
IF it happens IF you found out that your bf really cheated be very mature be realistic that even if you should lose a 10 years loving relationship be glad it is not more than that...
Life goes on...
No false hopes once a cheater always a cheater...
After that the relationship is a lie... Since it is soooo easy to get out rest assured he will continue cheating...
Not everything deserves a 2nd chance...
Until then... Love unconditionally trust each other don't waste your time doubting...
If you have time to doubt you don't have time to love...
If you have time to love you don't have time to doubt...
Understand If you fall you climb straight back up... No point lying on the floor begging for people's pitiness drowning in your own sorrows pray someone will pick you up again etc...
Because in the end you will still need to stand back up with your own two feet...
You achieve nothing by crying blaming yourself or others torturing yourself etc...
Good luck~
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