Going through a serious breakup can be as emotionally traumatizing an experience as almost anything that can happen to you in life. If you have recently gone through a hard breakup, you are probably seeking answers. Why did this happen? What could I have done to avoid it?
I am here to say that, unfortunately, there is no ” one size fits all” answer to these questions. That is because the right answers differ from person to person, couple to couple. The history of any given romantic relationship is unique: each one walks its own meandering path. But, answers are what you need if you want to fix your relationship.
So, what can be done about fixing breakups? Here are 5 steps:
1. Get in touch with your own needs and wants first
Having a breakup can make you feel like you got in the emotional equivalent of a car accident. You feel a bit disoriented, out of sorts. You feel dizzy. You may feel like laughing one moment, crying the next. Before you can effectively fix your breakup, you need to give yourself some time getting in touch with ” the real you” again. So, how do you get in touch with your own needs and wants? Read a favorite novel. Do some journaling. Take some walks. Do whatever it is that gets you focused on the things that matter to you most in life – regardless of the status of your relationship.
2. Decide if he or she is worth getting back
Once you feel a bit more centered, it is time to take stock of the situation. While it is hard to do, try to look objectively at your relationship. What was working, what wasn’t? Looking back over the course of your relationship, how would you judge the actions of both yourself and your partner? Were you both kind and caring toward each other? Did you show each other the respect you each deserved? Before you go about fixing a breakup, you need to make sure that the effort would be worth it.
3. Swallow your pride and make the first move
If you decide that fixing your breakup is the right thing to do, you need to think about the best way to actually approach your ex again. Yes, that may mean swallowing your pride and making the first move. That is never easy to do, especially if it was your ex who initiated the breakup. Still, armed with the right knowledge, your chances are better than you may think to fix your relationship.
4. Do something unexpected to improve your appearance
Before you approach your ex with the prospect of getting back together, do something to improve your looks. Try a different hairstyle. Start an exercise routine to lose 5 – 10 pounds. Buy a new outfit or two. Remember, looks do matter – regardless of how well you know and love each other. By putting a little extra effort into your looks, you are increasing your odds of a successful reunion with your ex more than you might imagine.
5.
Take it slowly
Once you approach your ex and start a dialogue about your relationship with him or her, make sure you take it slowly. You need to walk before you run. If you move too quickly, you could risk destroying everything you are working so hard for.
Fixing breakups is both an art and a science. What you need is sound advice that has worked for thousands of other jilted lovers. Then, you need to apply this advice expertly to your own situation. That is a winning combination.
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Submitted Questions
How do you like my poem (story) Please give your opinon
Once a upon a time in a far away place
there lived a beautiful young lady named Grace.
She had dark pretty hair and sweet golden skin
that all envied her even her little twin.
They hated her with furious resentment.
They spied closely on her where ever she went.
But Grace was a lovely generous young girl
who just had a passion to sing dance and twirl.
One day the evil black witch of the green lands
decided to cast a spell with her own hands.
She wanted Grace to fall a sleep forever.
As she had laughed the witch said this was clever.
Trouble was ahead but Grace had little clue.
She had to be saved but only the few knew.
The evils wanted Grace to be touched with harm
but there was one who could stop it with his charm.
The young prince had found out about this mean case
and wanted to stop those from getting to Grace.
He ordered the witch to be captured and killed
and when the kind prince saw the girl he was thrilled.
His heart was on fire and she was the new flame.
drove me out of my mind the girl he did blame.
Waves of passion had came over the young prince
he had never appeared like this ever since.
She was also carried away by his love
like each of them were that amazing white dove.
It was a whirlwind romance people had thought
their love bond was so strong all it did was fought
The Great Gracious Grace had now became princess
and those selfish girls were mad at this success
She had been shielded with her great one armor
the pleasing precious prince that was a charmer.
this is for a booklet that i have to do
and i need ur view on itt
do i need to put commas after eachline when there is no period
i think i used metaphors similie and alliteration.
You do not need to put periods after each line. Though if you want the rhythm to stop you should. Do not put periods at the end of the line if you want something to flow (this is called enjambment).
I liked how you used alliteration in the last stanza but I’m thinking you should add more poetic devices besides rhyming couplets. Try a simile or personification perhaps
Otherwise good job!
Random Thought of the Day
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