Women are beautiful beings! Our natural feminine energy is to be soft and vulnerable which can be difficult to maintain in the masculine world of business. The challenge for women in business in the 21st century is to remain feminine whilst still being strong, in control and independent.
As you know, men and women are different and we wouldn’t want it any other why. Whilst we should be treated equally, we are not identical or the same. It’s the differences that make us ultimately complement each other and when you understand the differences you can use them to your advantage when dealing with men and women.
What’s the main difference between men and women? Its hormones. Testosterone is what makes a man a man and estrogen is what makes a woman a woman. Hormones flow through our body influencing not only how we deal with things physically but also emotionally. Whilst men and women can demonstrate both masculine and feminine qualities, men essentially have a masculine energy and women, a feminine energy.
The business world is largely a man’s world, charged with masculine energy and men have always been part of it. Men are raised to know they will always work and that business is the natural place for them to be a man. Until recent times, women always knew their work place would be their home and family and as a society we accepted the roles that both men and women filled.
Economic times have changed however so whilst men remain in their ” natural” workplace and energy space, women today have dual workplaces of both home and business requiring them to be multi-dimensional, moving constantly between the traditional male and female energy spaces. To be a man in business he just needs to be a man and be in his masculine energy. To be a woman in business, she needs to move out of her feminine energy into her masculine energy and if not given the opportunity to stay connected with her feminine energy, a woman can end up feeling disempowered from who she really is: a woman.
Surveys on what drives or motivates men and women, regularly show that the top three motivating factors for men are: sex, power and achievement. For women, it’s security, relationships and love. This generally explains why for 87% of men, work is the most important area of their life, whilst for women, it’s only 5%. If money was not an issue, the majority of women say they would choose not to work, preferring to do something for the fun or enjoyment of it.
This is not advocating that women should not be in business or want to be in business – there a many, many women in business achieving excellent results and loving what they do. The challenge for women is to remain naturally feminine whilst working in a largely masculine business world.
Men need space to be a man and women need space to be a woman. Knowing this, the different energies of men and women can be bought into play within a company so that everyone benefits. For example, whilst the competitive male energy will keep a company focused and moving forward, feminine energy will keep a team working together. The two energies complement each other to the benefit of everyone.
Naturally soft and nurturing, women step out of this feminine energy each day to participate in a masculine world of power and achievement. The tole for women is when they are not able to easily return to their natural energy state, is that this can often cause clashes in partner and family relationships. Men are attracted to the feminine energy of a women (it allows them to be more masculine) and having spent a day in the battlefield of business, they yearn to come home to the soft, nurturing energy of their partner and home: it’s what creates the balance in their lives.
So if their partner is still powering along in her masculine energy, men can feel home is not the safe place they were looking forward to retreating to, and stress can prevail.
For women, stepping out of that masculine work energy does not always happen the instant you put your briefcase down and change out of your suit. It takes time to let go of the day’s issues and soften. Both men and women need to be aware of the energy shift that women are required to do each day and make space and time for this change at the end of each day. A loving hug to welcome each other home is a simple and ideal way to initiate the energy shift and reconnect as a man and a woman.
The business world is no longer the sole domain of men. Women are valid participants adding great and unique value and business benefits tremendously from the blending and melding of masculine and feminine energies. The key for women however is being able to step out of the business world is to re emerge into the beautiful, feminine energy that makes us women. Consider a hug: hug your partner, your children and life!
Further Reading
http://www.theonion.com/articles/area-woman-fulfills-dream-of-becoming-writer-by-ge5329/
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http://www.webster.edu/~corbetre/personal/reading/thomas-skin.html
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Submitted Questions
How can I become a good woman
My husband blames me for everything that is wrong in our marriage and it’s really putting a lot on my shoulders.
I’ll be 31 tomorrow and I’ve been married to my husband since I have been 20. I became a mother at 21 and we were married before I was pregnant. This is my first marriage and my husband’s second. The first marriage lasted 11 months and she cheated within the circle of friends after thinking he was doing it…
He is 33 works in construction plays the drums obsessivly and golfs even when we can’t afford it.
I am a stay at home mom of 3 girls ages 2 6 and 10. All very smart my oldest is in the gifted and talented despite being within a bad marriage.
My husband started drinking very heavy early in the marriage within months and with that came insults nights gone and eventually his own group of friends. The put downs were almost instant and he would compare me to other men’s wives in sexual ways. He also tends to always find the sleezy people to hang around. He is an attractive man but yet so dumb on many levels. I would never ever call him out on it but sometimes having a conversation with him is like talking to my own children.
However that being said he is not book smart but he is very skilled in his trade and he learns physical things quickly.
I like a challenge intellectually but have deprived myself of such for 11 years now and the only thing he will EVER talk to me about is his loves which are the drums and golf both of which I have learned to love and know about in every aspect.
If I try to talk about my screenwriting or novel writing or show him a quilt I just made or a dress I just made he will not hear me…
Now he does eat my food and eat my baked goods without ignoring me… Go figure!
I also try to talk about the marriage and he gets mad and god forbid if I bring up intimacy that is totally off limits! I mean I have tried different approaches like “let’s discuss a fantasy” let’s try this and that and NOTHING!!!
He is addicted to porn and replaces me with it. I am SUPER clean and a sexy size 4 after having 3 kids and I like to look polished at all times.
I am talented opinionated and intelligent and I am in no way materialistic although he does say that I am because I feel we should be paying our bills taking care of our health and dental needs and it would be wise to purchase a home instead of paying 1200 a month rent for another 10 years.
I pay our bills I know what we have to work with and although everyone dreams I am very realistic in what we can and can’t afford.
For example… I feel I deserve a wedding ring I felt I deserved him to celebrate our 10 year wedding anniversary this past January and yet he says I am materialistic and want-want-want. PLEASE! Come look in my home you’ll see right away I am not materialistic I just want our basic needs and a little extra would be nice but I understand.
He on the other hand spends on golf golf clubs and drums and music stuff and xbox games… I spend on groceries household items and needs and maybe an occasional movie from the used movie section.
His irresponsible ways and crappy bookkeeping now have him stuck with a 40K IRS bill that is soley his.
And he just doesn’t even care he has an “OH Well” additude…
So because of all this I b*tch… I write list I come up with plans and goals and realistic ones at that…
Which is then classified as nagging to him.
Everything is nagging to him. If I ask him where he is working today That is nagging b/c he says “what are you my mommy”
I ask for s*x and he says no… He also tells me that I am WEIRD b/c I want to be kissed and courted… HE DOES NOT DO THAT!
I’ve tried! He will not take me anywhere unless we are driving to see his family to whom he trashes me out to.
So for all this waiting on him to settle down crap I got cheated on 5 years ago. He helped a co-worker who was also married move and he screwed her. I found out by hitting redial on the phone. He never came home. I packed the house (we rented) had no money begged this man to come back and went to his family thinking they would help get him back and they took me and the kids in but when he finally came back 2 months later from living with that woman he was so mean to me. Told me in detail all about her… Then started telling me he was dating and he’d like to become a stripper. I was so understanding b/c I was so devestated. He brought that woman to my home he took my kids around her. She had 3 kids taken away from her b/c she was a bad mom and had custody of a 4th child by yet another man. I mean this gal was putting on the I’m lonely act as her husband serevd our country in war. She was not even attractive she just happend to be available to my husband.
Once he went to where we were I borrowed money from my family to rent a place 6 months after we split up… He was living elsewhere and only coming by to screw me.
I went to work doing accounting.
When I got my place he moved in on day one…. He treated me like a dog so 5 months later I left MY place with my kids and stayed w/ a girlfriend… Well within 3 days he had a single male roommate and even though I called him every day begging him to please just love me and make our family work he would hang up on me.
This went on 9 months.
He finally asked me back after I bought a new car BY MYSELF!!!
I thought things would get better and 3 out of 5 weren’t bad days but he started hanging around single men and leaving me home more and more and the drinking was soooo bad.
And I remember calling him one weekend when he was off spending the night at his brothers and I needed formula for my 2 day old infant he had our only car my car and I had no money and he kept hanging up on me. I fed that baby warm water for 18 hours he finally came home the next morning at 11am.
I had no breast milk due to problems I had during my pregnacy with my breast.
So I left again about a year ago this time I went back to where the affair happened where my family lives….
I RENTED this house well actually my mom did… He went to live at his moms and she let him be lazy and encouraged him to go to the bars.
I tried to move on but begged him again to come up here. Eventually he did 2 months later… But during that 2 months it would be days that I would hear from him…
I’ve been faithful by the way but I cry a lot.
I get very angry when he igores me and have resulted in putting myself down just like he does. He calls me repulsive no man would ever want me damaged goods and more.
I hate who I am and it sucks.
I know I am attractive because I am aware of the men looking at me but when someone picks at you and picks and picks it becomes routine and I have learned to accept it but my heart aches so terribly because all I really want is my husband to love me by that meaning forget about the past and love each other for today and tomorrow based on new ideas and goals and making our 3 girls strong women.
I thought this is what he wanted to but now all he cares about is being some sex god drummer with a bunch of groupies or on a golf course or hanging out with everyone but his wife. I mean I am home 24/7. I get NO break minus a trip to Walmart or the mall.
I want to be able to get dressed up go out with my husband and come home in lust! Or load the kids up and take em to the park!
We only leave when he goes to his families to jam or if one of his friends suggest something.
Now he did quit drinking a year ago but he did just say yesterday “You make me want to drink”…
I’m sick of hearing this I’m sick of it being all my fault and I’m sick of him rubbing it in my face that he provides the bread for this family and that should be enough I mean he told me yesterday that he never gets me anything for my birthday because I am repulsive.
Why can’t I leave him Why can’t I get through to him
WE have great kids and we COULD have a great marriage if he would just include me for once. I’ve always been on the back burner and his doormat. I mean he tells me that I am not his mommy when I ask about where he worked or what his plans are.
When am I included He makes me so crazy I cry uncontrollable I yell when he calls me names and I just can’t take it anymore.
Why is he so decietful to me when I have been so true to him and accepted his every flaw and screw up Why does he rub his flings in my face and make me feel less of a woman by not being remorseful Not loving me and not caring how I feel b/c I want to much a kiss is too much I’m exausted.
He WILL NOT go to marriage counceling b/c HE does not need it only I do….
He calls me crazy dillusional etc…
ok…i had to re-read this. i will try to keep this simple. first of all…you need to find your spine and stick that on with superglue. because you are being a doormat to a man that doesn’t want you. he treats you like crap all the time. he even cheated on you and you still want him honey…no man is worth doing what you did just to be with someone that will treat you like crap. you need to regain your independence and hire an attorney and divorce him. second…you need to find a way to enjoy being in solitude. because it seems as if you are so despearte just to have a man love you that you are willing to sacrifice being treated like a woman (versus being treated like a dog) just so you can feel that ‘love.’ love comes in many forms. you can have love from your friends love from your family. and there are plenty of other men that will treat you WAY better than this peice of crap. but you need to stop being a doormat. the only way that this will change and the ONLY way that you can even expierence true happines is if you regain your sense of independence regain your sense of identity (as yourself and not as someone’s wife) get a job (preferably a full time) get your own source of income and leave him and his family alone. nobody and i mean NOBODY is worth living like you are honey. wipe your tears get a job the next place that you move into…let that be your own. if your husband comes over…don’t let him in. tell him to go back to that other woman or his momma’s house. hire an attorney and divorce him. you cannot wait for him to change in order for you to be happy. you have waited long enough. why are you waiting for him to include you what about your own activites if you want to go out and get dressed up then do it. but do it for yourself. don’t wait for him. you may never be able to get though to him. the only thing that may be able to get through to him is if he lost everything. you (as in divorce) his job his children…that may be only thing that may get him to change finally. he rubs his flings in your face because he knows that you will do nothing about it. that’s why he keeps doing it. and what have you done (except for cry and yell back at him) he will not tell you where he works oh my goodness. and you are still there if you want to be included then you need to put you first. stop waitng for your husband to come around. make a plan and stick wtih it. you need to find a way to stand on your own two feet. i’m not saying all of this to be mean. but you need to take a good look in the mirrow and ask yourself if this is what you REALLY want (as another poster stated). and if not (cause it seems as if you really don’t) then you need to take the necessary steps towards making yourself happy and putting yourself happy. if he will not do it…then you need to do it yourself. you have waited long enough.
1. get a job
2. move out
3. hire a divorce attorney
he cheated on you several times and you still stayed with him i can’t belive it.
Random Thought of the Day
“For the young men in cities it is not an issue indicating ‘I really like you’. But I can understand the way it could be tricky for the conservative and classic person. He may possibly experience foolish expressing the terms considering that it can make him search weak. ”
Also males like gals fear rejection.
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